We got our first stupid comment today

I think I handled it very well. And now I've worked myself into a pretty admirable snit. I think it took me by surprise since no one has said anything unsolicited in the almost 4 months and when I do talk to people they have been so nice. I know you all would understand.

I was getting my brows waxed and had Anna with me. Being CNY, she was in a little traditional outfit (she was so cute!) and I had a jacket on I bought in Taiwan. This older lady came in and talked to the staff there. I have to say, she already appeared angry and I get the impression she may be grieving. So, she sat down and looked at Anna for a few seconds. No, not the usual look, but more like she was looking at something unappealing. Then in a angry manner she asked

"So, is she yours?"

I said yes, I adopted her from Taiwan.

Then she asked "So why didn't you just have your own?"

I said when I had my son I went into heart failure and was looking at a heart transplant for a year. And while I recovered, I can't have another bio child. (I probably wouldn't have explained all that, but I was already a little upset and wanted to give her a little verbal slap back).

She then asked, also angry "So, is your son still around?" I thought Yes, but thankfully not right here!

She responded looking at Anna, "So what do you have to do to get one of them?"

I started to explain "A lot of time, energy, paperwork and money..."

She interrupted and asked "So, what happens to the PARENTS? Don't they care about them?"

Nicely, I said Anna's birth mother was in college when she got pregnant and it's not common for women in Taiwan to raise babies alone."

She interrupted again and stated to ask something basically to the effect of...So they just give away the kids to whoever will take them?

I started to say here's what we had to go through to even qualify but I was called back. Probably a good thing.

I think although the questions bothered me, it was more the angry way it was done. Very aggressive. I understand as a Clinical SW why people act the way they do, but it's totally different when you feel someone is attacking your baby. Now I want to go back and slap the woman, and I don't mean verbally!

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Update:

As Anna's father, it would have gone as far as "Why didn't you have your own?" to which I would have replied: Why don't you mind your own g-dammed business?

Further comments would have been met with cold glares, reciprocal rudeness, targeted flatulence or pistol-whipping. (As appropriate.)

My wife is a genteel woman of great patience. This is a Good Thing given that she's married to me...

R.